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Post by drbill on Oct 25, 2023 10:29:25 GMT -6
Sorry to be late on this, but I'm sorry to hear your news. Even though it's the way of things, we always miss the love and counsel of our parents. Going through the process of watching Lewy Body Dementia take its toll has been hard over the past number of years... my only concern and reason for posting is I am concerned my own behavior and language used here amongst valued colleagues and dear friends might cause any one else any discomfort. Grief sometimes affects how we behave, and I would be ashamed of myself for hurting another person when it were definitely not my intention. I totally get this Ward, and I don't think you need to worry. We all get "off" at times. And I completely get your distress. It takes time. I've been through it a couple times now.... We are days away from my Father-In-Law passing. Dementia, Alzheimers, heart failure and kidney failure. They have taken him off all his normal meds and have him on morphine mostly. With another med for "agitation". He has lost his normal mental acuity at this point. I just saw an interview with Don Randi (old friend / mentor / wrecking crew) talking about his last session with Glen Campbell and his Alzheimers progression. Heartbreaking. I'm sad I didn't have the opportunity to say "goodbye" in person with my FIL as I've been laid up with the broken foot. Yesterday I got the OK to start hobbling and learning to walk again, so if opportunity permits, I'd like to go see him - but I know he's not really there anymore. That's the hard part. Dementia and Alzheimers SUCKS!!!! This has been extremely hard on my wife, but she is a better person than I and she's getting through it. Loosing your own father is hard, and my prayers are still with you. I remember that one pic you posted on IG of you with your father and it was a super cool one...... |
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Post by Ward on Oct 25, 2023 12:42:52 GMT -6
Bless you Bill. You are a true colleague and friend and I am grateful for you and our future off-roading time together.
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Post by ericn on Nov 4, 2023 18:36:21 GMT -6
Going through the process of watching Lewy Body Dementia take its toll has been hard over the past number of years... my only concern and reason for posting is I am concerned my own behavior and language used here amongst valued colleagues and dear friends might cause any one else any discomfort. Grief sometimes affects how we behave, and I would be ashamed of myself for hurting another person when it were definitely not my intention. I totally get this Ward, and I don't think you need to worry. We all get "off" at times. And I completely get your distress. It takes time. I've been through it a couple times now.... We are days away from my Father-In-Law passing. Dementia, Alzheimers, heart failure and kidney failure. They have taken him off all his normal meds and have him on morphine mostly. With another med for "agitation". He has lost his normal mental acuity at this point. I just saw an interview with Don Randi (old friend / mentor / wrecking crew) talking about his last session with Glen Campbell and his Alzheimers progression. Heartbreaking. I'm sad I didn't have the opportunity to say "goodbye" in person with my FIL as I've been laid up with the broken foot. Yesterday I got the OK to start hobbling and learning to walk again, so if opportunity permits, I'd like to go see him - but I know he's not really there anymore. That's the hard part. Dementia and Alzheimers SUCKS!!!! This has been extremely hard on my wife, but she is a better person than I and she's getting through it. Loosing your own father is hard, and my prayers are still with you. I remember that one pic you posted on IG of you with your father and it was a super cool one...... Man Bill. I couldn’t put a like on this, so sorry for what your family is dealing with, but glad the foot is on the mend. |
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Post by drbill on Nov 4, 2023 22:29:42 GMT -6
I totally get this Ward, and I don't think you need to worry. We all get "off" at times. And I completely get your distress. It takes time. I've been through it a couple times now.... We are days away from my Father-In-Law passing. Dementia, Alzheimers, heart failure and kidney failure. They have taken him off all his normal meds and have him on morphine mostly. With another med for "agitation". He has lost his normal mental acuity at this point. I just saw an interview with Don Randi (old friend / mentor / wrecking crew) talking about his last session with Glen Campbell and his Alzheimers progression. Heartbreaking. I'm sad I didn't have the opportunity to say "goodbye" in person with my FIL as I've been laid up with the broken foot. Yesterday I got the OK to start hobbling and learning to walk again, so if opportunity permits, I'd like to go see him - but I know he's not really there anymore. That's the hard part. Dementia and Alzheimers SUCKS!!!! This has been extremely hard on my wife, but she is a better person than I and she's getting through it. Loosing your own father is hard, and my prayers are still with you. I remember that one pic you posted on IG of you with your father and it was a super cool one...... Man Bill. I couldn’t put a like on this, so sorry for what your family is dealing with, but glad the foot is on the mend. Thanks for the kind words Eric. Dad (FIL - but like my own father) has gone to heaven now. A couple of days ago. We're sad, but it's a relief as he was really not in a good physical or mental (Alzheimers) space. We are at peace as we have a faith in God and an afterlife. Beyond that, my foot is really frustrating me. Bad day, good day, bad day, good day. I am beginning to believe the Dr. that it will take a year + to walk right again. I'm seeing a PT on Monday, and hope to gain a better perspective than the Dr. gives me. If I don't, I know who I'm going to call to get some rehab counciling. Keep your phone handy!! |
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Post by ericn on Nov 5, 2023 9:02:45 GMT -6
Man Bill. I couldn’t put a like on this, so sorry for what your family is dealing with, but glad the foot is on the mend. Thanks for the kind words Eric. Dad (FIL - but like my own father) has gone to heaven now. A couple of days ago. We're sad, but it's a relief as he was really not in a good physical or mental (Alzheimers) space. We are at peace as we have a faith in God and an afterlife. Beyond that, my foot is really frustrating me. Bad day, good day, bad day, good day. I am beginning to believe the Dr. that it will take a year + to walk right again. I'm seeing a PT on Monday, and hope to gain a better perspective than the Dr. gives me. If I don't, I know who I'm going to call to get some rehab counciling. Keep your phone handy!! Sorry to hear of his passing, over time the memories of the man you knew will replace those of his condition. Best wishes to your family. The fun of rehab learning how far you can push it, everyone tells you not to push it, but to have to. Just learn your limits and concentrate on real movement and range, not the numbers. |
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Post by lee on Nov 6, 2023 16:26:49 GMT -6
Just saw this, my sincerest condolences Ward.
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Post by Ward on Nov 6, 2023 18:10:29 GMT -6
Thanks friends. Working through it now with law firms and estate irregularities
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Post by drbill on Nov 6, 2023 19:02:41 GMT -6
Working through it now with law firms and estate irregularities Ugh....been there, done that many years ago. My condolences on that as well. Get a good estate/trust attorney!!!!!!! I'll have to up my prayers for you. |
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Post by Ward on Nov 6, 2023 19:32:07 GMT -6
Working through it now with law firms and estate irregularities Ugh....been there, done that many years ago. My condolences on that as well. Get a good estate/trust attorney!!!!!!! I'll have to up my prayers for you. Thanks brother. I have one good firm hired on now, and working on a second for non-personal matters. It's SPENSIVE! |
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Post by christopher on Nov 7, 2023 2:06:33 GMT -6
My advice.. let your loved family members win the money not the lawyers. Been there done that. Family is family, love hate, it’s easy to love a lawyer more.. they want money, and to smile and never see you again
I’m super sorry for your loss
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Post by Ward on Nov 7, 2023 13:14:10 GMT -6
My advice.. let your loved family members win the money not the lawyers. Been there done that. Family is family, love hate, it’s easy to love a lawyer more.. they want money, and to smile and never see you again I’m super sorry for your loss Thanks brother, I can't say I find any fault in your logic. |
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Post by ericn on Nov 7, 2023 22:31:56 GMT -6
Ugh....been there, done that many years ago. My condolences on that as well. Get a good estate/trust attorney!!!!!!! I'll have to up my prayers for you. Thanks brother. I have one good firm hired on now, and working on a second for non-personal matters. It's SPENSIVE! Who do you think is raising the price of KM84s. |
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Post by bowie on Nov 8, 2023 13:25:13 GMT -6
Just saw this. Condolences and I hope you're healing well. There's been quite a bit of loss in my family over the past year and the legal fights are mounting so I can sympathize. Conflict in the midst of grief is such an ugly thing. I wish you the best through all this.
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